False Beliefs About Anger

Anger Management

False Beliefs About Anger

Anger is often perceived as a negative feeling. But what is it really?

  • It's not okay to feel angry.
  • Anger is a waste of time and energy.
  • Good, nice people don't feel angry.
  • We shouldn't feel angry when we do.
  • We'll lose control and go crazy if we get angry.
  • People will go away if we get angry at them.
  • Other people should never feel angry toward us.
  • If others get angry at us, we must have done something wrong.
  • If other people are angry at us, we made them feel that way, and we're responsible for fixing their feelings.
  • If we feel angry, someone else made us feel that way, and that person is responsible for fixing our feelings.
  • If we feel angry at someone, the relationship is over, and that person has to go away.
  • If we feel angry at someone, we should punish that person for making us feel angry.
  • If we feel angry at someone, that person has to change what he or she is doing so that we don't feel angry anymore.
  • If we feel angry, we have to hit someone or break something.
  • If we feel angry, we have to shout or scream.
  • If we feel angry at someone, it means we don't love that person anymore.
  • If someone feels angry at us, it means that person doesn't love us anymore.
  • Anger is a sinful emotion.
  • It's okay to feel angry only when we can justify our feelings.
-Author Unknown
Source:
Group Exercises for Adolescents, A Manual for Therapists, 2nd Edition 
By Susan Carrell, Sage Publications