Anger Management

Anger Management

Additional Resources

If you would like to speak with a Wellness Educator/Counselor about anger management, please call (603) 862-3823 or make an appointment online

Anger Management

We provide self-referred anger management counseling at no additional cost to students who have paid their health fee.

Students will meet with Judy Stevens, a registered nurse and wellness educator/counselor.

The Office of Community Standards, hall director, student attorney or other outside legal service may refer you to us because you have been involved in a violation of university policies. We do see students who have been arrested and/or referred as a result of a court mandate. This mandate is an opportunity for you to gain knowledge and information around how you manage your anger. Mandated anger management education/counseling visits are not covered by the Health Fee and costs $50 for the service. Please bring paperwork related to your incident to the first session.

You don't have to be referred from an outside service to seek anger management counseling.

I feel that I have a hard time controlling my anger, what should I do?

If you are not sure you need help, it may help to look at the following statements and determine if they may be true about you:

  • I tend to get angry more frequently than most people.
  • It is easy to make me angry.
  • Something makes me angry almost every day.
  • I often feel angrier than I think I should.
  • I am surprised at how often I feel angry.
  • At times, I feel angry for no specific reason.
  • When I get angry, I stay angry for hours.
  • I get so angry, I feel like I might lose control.

If you feel that most of these statements are true, you may benefit from anger management counseling. This is an opportunity for you to examine your own approach to conflict and expressing emotion in a way that may be more productive for you and others you engage with.

What should I expect from an anger management counseling session?

Whether self-referred or mandated, your first visit will consist of an assessment. Please allow approximately 45-60 minutes for this meeting. The counselor will ask you several questions about past experiences with anger, possible triggers, etc. This session also includes a brief written assessment. If you are mandated, you will be required to come back for a follow up appointment.

You will learn the conflict behaviors you rely on and if you are using some conflict behaviors more or less than necessary. After the assessment, you may continue to be seen for anger management or you may be referred to a counselor at the Counseling Center or an outside therapist. The wellness educator/counselor will encourage you to take steps to identify your anger, cool down and communicate.

False Beliefs About Anger

Anger is often perceived as a negative feeling. But what is it really?

  • It's not okay to feel angry.
  • Anger is a waste of time and energy.
  • Good, nice people don't feel angry.
  • We shouldn't feel angry when we do.
  • We'll lose control and go crazy if we get angry.
  • People will go away if we get angry at them.
  • Other people should never feel angry toward us.
  • If others get angry at us, we must have done something wrong.
  • If other people are angry at us, we made them feel that way, and we're responsible for fixing their feelings.
  • If we feel angry, someone else made us feel that way, and that person is responsible for fixing our feelings.
  • If we feel angry at someone, the relationship is over, and that person has to go away.
  • If we feel angry at someone, we should punish that person for making us feel angry.
  • If we feel angry at someone, that person has to change what he or she is doing so that we don't feel angry anymore.
  • If we feel angry, we have to hit someone or break something.
  • If we feel angry, we have to shout or scream.
  • If we feel angry at someone, it means we don't love that person anymore.
  • If someone feels angry at us, it means that person doesn't love us anymore.
  • Anger is a sinful emotion.
  • It's okay to feel angry only when we can justify our feelings.
-Author Unknown
 Source: Group Exercises for Adolescents, A Manual for Therapists, 2nd Edition By Susan Carrell, Sage Publications

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